How do people have their spouse travel and deal with it well? My goodness–I’ve totally taken for granted that Dillon doesn’t travel–yah, he works awful hours and sometimes only gets to see the kids for an hour before bed, and other weeks only sees them a couple times a week, then works on weekends as well. I teach piano and do my Lemon Squeezy thing to help us out more so he can be home more, but really, at least we still see him.
Dillon left this morning for Reno. He will come back next Thursday for me to go with my sisters to visit my dad in Texas, then I’ll get back on Sunday and he’ll leave Monday again for Reno. It’s for a job that will pay more and get the company’s foot in the door for this company they are doing the work for in Reno, which will hopefully lead to higher paying jobs here in Utah. I was so sad saying our family prayer before he left, and already miss him so much. It was going to be even more crappy because right when he had to leave with the two other workers waiting for him, I got really sick and lost it (luckily I called him and told him I was going to be sad to not give him a real hug and kiss before he left–he was only a couple blocks away and gladly came back home).
BUT, with all that being said, I am thankful for my hard-working hubby and for our efforts in getting out of debt and save some money that will eventually lead to more time together:). I’m especially thankful that we’ve had opportunities to earn more money to pay off our bills that keep coming up at the worst times–does anyone else feel like just when they feel like they are getting ahead, the car breaks down, your house falls apart, people get sick, and anything else you could add to that list where the money goes where you least intended, but you still are thankful that you had the money so you don’t get into more debt?
I know what you mean in regards to traveling husbands…but I am happy to hear that it is so hard for you two to be apart, that means you must have a really great marriage!:) Since we moved to OC Paul doesn’t travel much, but for the first two years of our marriage he was gone about three months out of the year. It was really hard, but you finds ways to make it easier, such as texting, emailing, watching American Idol together on the phone etc.
I agree with the bills comment as well. It’s such a vicious cycle! Hang in there, it all works out in the end.
Ha, ha! I just had to laugh when you mentioned saving money and then having it all go down the drain on something stupid. That ALWAYS happens to us…and like you, we always feel like we should be grateful we had the money to fix it in the first place…but that doesn’t really help you feel better. :) What DOES make me feel better is knowing that we aren’t the only ones who go through that!
Good luck with having Dillon gone. I have only had Brad away for one night and it was nightmare. :) Let us know if you need anything!
We know EXACTLY what you mean about starting to get ahead and then having some sort of catastrophe happen where all of the saving and scrimping goes down the drain.
Also I hate it when Scot leaves. It’s rare but when he does I am a big baby so I know how you feel. I don’t know how people in the military or people who’s husbands travel a lot do it. It’s hard to be apart. Good luck!
I also don’t know how military wives do it. Seriously, I think you have to be made of something extra special to deal with that kind of separation without going crazy.
Since my husband started his new job last June, we’ve been apart probably 3 months or so. Maybe a little longer. He shouldn’t have to travel much anymore, and I am so grateful for that because I don’t sleep well without him and miss him terribly when he’s gone. I also just LIKE to be with him, so to have him gone is very lonely for me. He is my best friend in the whole world. The things that helped the most: frequent phone calls (if possible), good night stories over the phone for the kids, sending letters. We used to go on walks and collect leaves and sticks to mail to daddy with updates on what we were all doing. And the kids colored pictures. I also stayed really busy. Some people might say, “Get a life!” but I really do miss my husband and love him so much that I hate to be apart from him. With so many marriages suffering in this world, I think it’s okay to be that close to your spouse. It’s more than okay. It’s the way it SHOULD be.
And I hear you . . . how on earth are you supposed to have 6 months of income in liquid savings?!? Has anyone been successful in doing this, because I think a lot of us could use some help! (And a good couple of years without a major car breakdown, illness, baby expenses, moving expenses, etc.) It seems like everytime we get a little bit of money put aside, SOMETHING comes to steal it all away.
Hi Christie!
Oh hope you are doing well. It sucks to be without the hubby! I hope things go well.
Hows the little baby bump coming along? Any names picked out?
Thanks for the comments! It’s great to keep in touch!
Loves!
I have always thought that you and Dillon are one of the most fabulous couples I know, and it is refreshing to single gals like me to see great examples of couples who are still so in love and can’t stand to be apart, even after nearly seven years of marriage… Good luck with him on the road — you really do have a great husband who is willing to work so hard for your family, but I hope you know that he has an equally as awesome wife! Love ya girl!