Be it a big nose, overweight, funky-shaped nose, or flat-chested, they don’t change their appearance even though they can. Can you imagine the pressure people have put on them to fit the mold of perfect? I have heard plenty of people in real life say they these celebrities should get this or that fixed, yet it just makes me like these celebrities more for not doing it and being okay with what they have–or don’t have!
I wish the world had more people like this, including myself. I waste so much time thinking about image and what I wish was different. Sometimes I’m fine, but it seems to be phases I go through. I hate doing it because it seriously is a waste of time and stops me from being all I can be. I try and remember what we all know about what’s really important, but I think our world focuses so much on image that it’s hard to not get sucked in. PLUS, I really really want my daughter to be more confident in who she is and be ok with her looks and herself no matter what! How can I instill this in my kids if I don’t feel that way myself sometimes?
What are your thoughts?
I know. It’s hard to look at pictures of my self and all I can see is my big nose. I’ll figure it out one day!
I think a good measuring stick is will this matter? Will this change my life for the better? Will I care that I did this later in life? I think if the answer is no, then it’s something that shouldn’t be worried about. If someone’s sense of self is connected to their looks, and they’ll gain confidence and well being from a choice, then go for it. With the careful consideration of those things above. And besides, how boring for everyone to look the same! Yuck.
That’s why I like the song “Freckles”. Basically the world would be boring if everyone were the same size and had perfect noses. After I had Ashley, I really got on myself about liking who I am and how I look. I had to really really try just liking myself. There are women in my ward who try their hardest to look perfect and to me it makes them look old, and they don’t seem to have very much fun. They’re always too worried about what they look like. And those who are very self confident and happy with the way they are, always seem happy, everyone talks to them. I don’t know. I know I want to lose weight, but it’s so I can be healthy and active. Sorry, I’m kinda rambling here. THE END!
I struggle with too! It sucks!
However, I when I have days like that I try my best to hide it from my daughter, because I don’t want to pass on that negativity. It’s hard though.
Try to put really great female role models in her life- and make sure to complement things about her that are not only physical… it’s what I try to do. Good luck… raising a girl can be tricky ;)
xoxox
Thanks for the comments guys! Kim, I think you are right that a lot of people just have a connection to their looks and how they feel about themselves. I like that song too, Rachelle! Ang, thanks for the tip–great idea with the role models. And Erin, what?! You totally do not have a big nose! I’d trade you noses anyday:).